(1)  You can't buy love with sex.

(2)  Sex is a 50-50 thing. If only one of you is enjoying it, then stop.

(3)  Have sex because you want to, not because the boy is pressuring you to or because your girlfriends are going on and on about how wonderful their sex lives are.

(4)  The first few times you have sex, you may be disappointed. It may even hurt a bit.

(5)  If it continues to hurt after the first few times, then you are probably not getting sufficiently aroused. Tell your boyfriend about this wonderful thing called foreplay. If he doesn't understand what you mean, then tell him again - loudly, if necessary.

(6)  The decision to have sex for the first time is difficult and can lead to a lot of guilt and emotional pain. Make that decision carefully and on your own terms.

(7)  Tell your partner what you like. Don't assume that your partner knows how to make love to you. Most boys don't and are too dumb or too scared to ask.

(8)  If the boy wants to do something to you that you don't want him to do, then tell him NO! It's your body and no amount of emotional blackmail will change that fact.

(9)  Having a partner who you love and who you are confident loves you makes sex so much better. When you love each other, it's not a matter of hooking up or having sex - it's a matter of making love.

(10)  Making love means just that. Your partner makes love to you because he wants you to have as much pleasure as he does, if not more. A real lover will concentrate on your pleasure before his own. That's love.

(11)  Sex on the first date is dumb (unless he is so hot that you melt when he touches you - we are human after all). Get to know the guy first.

(12) Having lots of different sexual partners is like binge drinking. You feel lousy afterwards and can't remember why you put yourself through it in the first place.

(13)  Don't have a baby because you want to hold on to the boy. Most modern western males have been brought up to believe that life is about having lots of choices. If you present them with a responsibility which they don't want, then they will probably dump you and the baby anyway, and go looking for someone else.

(14)  Don't have a baby on your own. Kids need 2 parents and you need a life - single mums don't have much of a life for the first 10-15 years. (Not that I can speak about children with any authority.)